Are you frustrated too when others make you do things you don’t feel like doing? Your boss pushes through option B whereas you were so convinced option A was the right one…; You have to do some administrative tasks, and you just hate those…; Your family asks your help, right now, and now is really not the right moment… Dealing with unwelcome requests sure is a difficult thing…
If you are like most people, you are annoyed. You do what is requested, but you do so with grudge or only passively. Or perhaps you don’t even act on the demand – instead, you keep procrastinating… Many people are not having fun in these cases… and they’re definitely not acting at full their potential…
Here is something we have experienced: the more we see ‘mandatory’ activities as a CHOICE, the more fulfilling they are, and the better the outcome will be. Think about it yourself. Doesn’t it feel better when you choose to spend time with your family, rather than having to do so? Isn’t there more positive energy when you choose to do your admin, rather than being obliged to do so? Aren’t more powerful ideas popping up when you choose to go for option B rather than feeling trapped because you can’t do option A?
You might say – but not everything IS a choice. Well – we would like to challenge you on that. There’s always some choice …
Here’s how we suggest going about it: (1) realize there is a choice and/or (2) craft the choice.
Realize there IS a choice
Craft the choice
Even if you consider there was no choice at all in WHAT to do, you can always choose HOW to do it. You can turn any situation into a positive experience. That is your choice. Here are two questions we like to ask ourselves when we have to do something ‘against our will’:
- How can I turn this into an opportunity? Something that will help me/us/the company grow?
- How can I make this fulfilling? Something that feels rewarding for me/ us/the company?
So, go for it – turn your next ‘frustrating request’ into a true choice – and notice the impact on yourself, and on your relationship with the ‘requesters’!